This is a story of parental alienation, and how parental alienation can happen to any non-custodial parents. I created this website to develop a single resource for parents dealing with parental alienation. I encourage you to read my story – and utilize the resources within my website to stand up for your children’s rights. Heck, stand up for your own rights!
The story behind my website:
Ten years ago I was blessed with my first child – a father’s dream in fact – my first son. It is indeed a special thing to see a “miniature version” of yourself roaming the planet all of a sudden, and as most parents do, I took a special fondness in raising this little boy and showing him all the world had to offer.
The relationship between my son’s mother and I seemed to be in constant turmoil. We did our best to make things work for the sake of our child, but at the end of the day we just weren’t compatible, and certainly not at that stage in our lives (both 21 years old). Unfortunately, while we were together, visitation with my son was dependent on the state of my relationship with his mother – if we were talking – I’d get to see him. If we weren’t on speaking terms, then I wouldn’t get to see him. This continued for a few months until I put my foot down and requested that we go to Court to setup an official order.
And then, all hell broke loose…..
A bitter child custody dispute began, in which his mother requested zero visitation and zero custody on my behalf, and I requested normal visitation and shared custody. You can probably guess that every accusation in “the book” was thrown at me.
Despite all attempts to block my visitation – I succeeded and earned the respect of the Court in the process. My son and I enjoyed many loving years together in which we developed a fantastic bond.
Along the way my son’s mother would routinely engage in subtle parental alienation, with various stages of parental alienation that would be considered “more severe.”
- My son was not allowed to take toys between visits, even if I wanted him to just have the toy and keep it at his mother’s home.
- My son indicated that he was “not allowed to hug me” in front of his mother.
- Disallowing me to attend extra-curricular activities – even when I was doing everything possible to remain 100 yards clear of her – in an effort to not “annoy her.”
- Various other statements that raised an eyebrow.
I knew exactly how my son’s mother felt about his relationship with me and I did my best to comfort him through those situations and undermine her efforts. I wrote her letters with regard to the more serious concerns, I’ve even forwarded such letters to her numerous attorneys, all of which have gone ignored.
That stuff didn’t matter to me, my son and I had a great relationship, and his mother’s behavior indicated a lot about her – I wasn’t going to allow it effect my relationship with my son.
Boy, oh boy, was I wrong….
Fast forward nine years later and my son will soon be ten years old. His mother has relentlessly engaged in subtle and (more recently) very severe parental alienation. Most recently, my son’s mother relocated him to Texas and efforts are underway to remedy that situation. The major issue now is my son and I no longer have continuous contact, and he no longer has “clear thinking.” My son seems completely and utterly brainwashed. I even went out there to see him, and he is terrified to see me, fearing that “something he will say might get his mother in trouble.”
Knowing that “something is wrong” – my son is now acting complete out of character. I have now be provided erroneous abuse allegations that were said to have happened here in California (conveniently enough) weeks before he was relocated to Texas.
The older my son has become, the more “aware” he is of the situation surrounding him. A rather peculiar psychological transformation is occurring and his natural tendency to protect his mother has kicked in.
My son is suffering from parental alienation syndrome and no longer cares to have a relationship with me.
Learn more about parental alienation: The warning signs, the co-parenting aspects, and most importantly how to SEEK HELP if you have any feeling that this could be you and your child one day.
Remember – Parental alienation effects men, women, fathers, mother, grandparents and even the extended family. Parental alienation can lead to a variety of mental disorders, drug use, and other adulthood problems for these innocent children.